- 46% of moms who took the survey “get irate with their husbands” at least once a week.
- 31% say they get little or no “help” from their husbands with chores.
- 44% said their partners “often don’t notice what needs to be done around the house or with the kids.”
- 50% say their husbands get more time for themselves.
The anger doesn’t end there. The mothers reported that they’ve had to alter their lifestyles far more than their husbands altered theirs once children entered the picture. They spend more mental and physical energy on parenting than their husbands, and they bear the burden of taking care of their children’s basic needs. They have every reason to be irate, if you ask me.
Mary Elizabeth at Broadsheet wags her finger at moms-on-the-edge, calling them “sexist” for being pissed at goodfernothin husbands. “Not all dads are bad!” Well, no, but the dads in question might be; why should women take other women’s husbands into consideration when their rage starts building?
In a separate feature, the New York Times Magazine reported on mothers who bypassed the weddings and inevitable divorces all together and raise their children with groups of other mothers. The women seem pretty blissful about their situations – liberated, even. These “single mothers” (“single” is Latin for “without a man,” apparently) are certainly no worse off than many of their married counterparts. From the looks of things, plenty of married moms are practically raising children by themselves, anyway. If your “partner” is only going to make parenting more difficult and exhausting for you, you might as well cut out the middle-man (see what I did there?).
The Broadsheet piece accuses the aforementioned articles of alleging that men are unnecessary. What does that even mean? Scores of women have been raising children and managing households by themselves, with only financial support from men, for hundreds of years. But possession of a penis is not required to bring home the bacon. Men are not “necessary” by virtue of some quality unique to men, unless we’re counting sperm production. But that doesn’t lead to the conclusion that all men are bad or unimportant, or that women don’t want men in their lives.
Most women want their male partners to be just that: partners. Men must take the initiative to be active husbands and fathers because it’s fair and loving, and not just because they fear irrelevance. Women have made great strides in the public sphere, but equality is unreachable if men refuse to make strides and take responsibility in the private sphere, within their relationships and families.