Comments on: On (Not) Becoming a Stepmom: An Overshare

By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 16:34:19 +0000

Don’t feel bad. You missed out on a few happy years with Evie before she turned into a selfish little teen who refused your clothes or other gifts and never felt compelled to reciprocate the love you would now have felt for her.

Things might have gone better for you but chances are good it would have ended up as described above. You, being tolerated, and the real mother, whether alive and under-involved or gone and sainted, would still never quite measure up.

The credit for anything good she did would still go mainly to her father and BM and very little to you, but if you placed a step wrong it would come back to haunt you.

Kiss it off and be happier.

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The Birthday I’m Supposed to Dread - The Pursuit of Harpyness — Sun, 09 May 2010 04:17:13 +0000

[...] intended to marry my boyfriend. We were desperately in love. But it ended, for reasons I’ve mentioned before. It was an excruciating breakup that took me a couple years to recover from. It was also the best [...]

By: k!m

k!m — Tue, 26 May 2009 15:25:57 +0000

i don’t know what else to say except:

thank you for sharing this, sister!

By: That’s Easy For You To Say - The Pursuit of Harpyness

That’s Easy For You To Say - The Pursuit of Harpyness — Fri, 01 May 2009 15:01:04 +0000

[...] My friend was a little taken aback that he brought it up so soon, but I wasn’t. After all, I called off a marriage-bound relationship when my boyfriend changed his mind about wanting to have kids. If having children is important, [...]

By: VixenG

VixenG — Fri, 01 May 2009 00:05:42 +0000

OMG….I think the Lord send us messages in the most indirect ways. Before I read this story I was depressed and confused. I’m dating an older guy(44) with 2 kids. We are 2 months in and everything was great. Then he calls and tells me that he has thought long and hard and realized he doesn’t want anymore children.It broke my heart deeply. On one hand I truely understood why because he is a single dad but on the other hand what’s one more. So I have been debating if I should stay with him or not. I really don’t want to lose a great guy but your points in your story were exactly how I was feeling. He and I don’t want to wake up with regrets. But your story was so touching and enlightening for my young mind and heart(27). I believe that it isn’t wise for me to settle, even though my biological clock is screaming in my ear..lol I’m going to find someone who shares the same dreams as I. Thanks for the insight and strength.

By: » A Rose By Any Other Name… The Pursuit of Harpyness

» A Rose By Any Other Name… The Pursuit of Harpyness — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 12:02:40 +0000

[...] was a lesson I learned so well that when I was for all intents and purposes a stepmother, it used to make me crazy that my boyfriend, when talking to his 6-year-old daughter, called her [...]

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» On Vacation Flings: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:00:10 +0000

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By: » Sometimes, Bad News Sounds A Lot Like Good News. The Pursuit of Harpyness

» Sometimes, Bad News Sounds A Lot Like Good News. The Pursuit of Harpyness — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 13:14:19 +0000

[...] may remember, once upon a time I was planning to marry a man in his late 40s but ultimately we broke up because he refused to have children with me. I’ll be 34 next month and while I’m not sweating my age too much, I’m definitely [...]

By: ashley

ashley — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:05:31 +0000

I have a daughter and my fiance has a daughter. I love them just the same, I’ve known my future stepdaughter since she was one. Our children get along just like sisters. Its his babymomma who has the problem for no reason at all. I love my fiance and his daughter and I love our childrens relationship but I can’t take to much of his exgirlfriends negativity in my life I just don’t understand and I can’t take it anymore. But goodluck to you, you told a very good story.

By: » The Matchmaker: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness

» The Matchmaker: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:02:10 +0000

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