Comments on: On (Not) Becoming a Stepmom: An Overshare http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/ As narrated by five of the most charming and vicious women on the internet Fri, 12 Mar 2010 11:46:22 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: k!m http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-8980 k!m Tue, 26 May 2009 15:25:57 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-8980 i don't know what else to say except: thank you for sharing this, sister! i don’t know what else to say except:

thank you for sharing this, sister!

]]> By: That’s Easy For You To Say - The Pursuit of Harpyness http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-7335 That’s Easy For You To Say - The Pursuit of Harpyness Fri, 01 May 2009 15:01:04 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-7335 [...] My friend was a little taken aback that he brought it up so soon, but I wasn’t. After all, I called off a marriage-bound relationship when my boyfriend changed his mind about wanting to have kids. If having children is important, [...] [...] My friend was a little taken aback that he brought it up so soon, but I wasn’t. After all, I called off a marriage-bound relationship when my boyfriend changed his mind about wanting to have kids. If having children is important, [...]

]]> By: VixenG http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-7315 VixenG Fri, 01 May 2009 00:05:42 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-7315 OMG....I think the Lord send us messages in the most indirect ways. Before I read this story I was depressed and confused. I'm dating an older guy(44) with 2 kids. We are 2 months in and everything was great. Then he calls and tells me that he has thought long and hard and realized he doesn't want anymore children.It broke my heart deeply. On one hand I truely understood why because he is a single dad but on the other hand what's one more. So I have been debating if I should stay with him or not. I really don't want to lose a great guy but your points in your story were exactly how I was feeling. He and I don't want to wake up with regrets. But your story was so touching and enlightening for my young mind and heart(27). I believe that it isn't wise for me to settle, even though my biological clock is screaming in my ear..lol I'm going to find someone who shares the same dreams as I. Thanks for the insight and strength. OMG….I think the Lord send us messages in the most indirect ways. Before I read this story I was depressed and confused. I’m dating an older guy(44) with 2 kids. We are 2 months in and everything was great. Then he calls and tells me that he has thought long and hard and realized he doesn’t want anymore children.It broke my heart deeply. On one hand I truely understood why because he is a single dad but on the other hand what’s one more. So I have been debating if I should stay with him or not. I really don’t want to lose a great guy but your points in your story were exactly how I was feeling. He and I don’t want to wake up with regrets. But your story was so touching and enlightening for my young mind and heart(27). I believe that it isn’t wise for me to settle, even though my biological clock is screaming in my ear..lol I’m going to find someone who shares the same dreams as I. Thanks for the insight and strength.

]]> By: » A Rose By Any Other Name… The Pursuit of Harpyness http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-5795 » A Rose By Any Other Name… The Pursuit of Harpyness Mon, 13 Apr 2009 12:02:40 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-5795 [...] was a lesson I learned so well that when I was for all intents and purposes a stepmother, it used to make me crazy that my boyfriend, when talking to his 6-year-old daughter, called her [...] [...] was a lesson I learned so well that when I was for all intents and purposes a stepmother, it used to make me crazy that my boyfriend, when talking to his 6-year-old daughter, called her [...]

]]> By: » On Vacation Flings: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-5598 » On Vacation Flings: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:00:10 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-5598 [...] first vacation fling came in the immediate aftermath of the breakup from hell. Three weeks after the breakup, I had a boondoggle business conference in Maui, which I had been [...] [...] first vacation fling came in the immediate aftermath of the breakup from hell. Three weeks after the breakup, I had a boondoggle business conference in Maui, which I had been [...]

]]> By: » Sometimes, Bad News Sounds A Lot Like Good News. The Pursuit of Harpyness http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-5357 » Sometimes, Bad News Sounds A Lot Like Good News. The Pursuit of Harpyness Mon, 06 Apr 2009 13:14:19 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-5357 [...] may remember, once upon a time I was planning to marry a man in his late 40s but ultimately we broke up because he refused to have children with me. I’ll be 34 next month and while I’m not sweating my age too much, I’m definitely [...] [...] may remember, once upon a time I was planning to marry a man in his late 40s but ultimately we broke up because he refused to have children with me. I’ll be 34 next month and while I’m not sweating my age too much, I’m definitely [...]

]]> By: ashley http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-2805 ashley Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:05:31 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-2805 I have a daughter and my fiance has a daughter. I love them just the same, I've known my future stepdaughter since she was one. Our children get along just like sisters. Its his babymomma who has the problem for no reason at all. I love my fiance and his daughter and I love our childrens relationship but I can't take to much of his exgirlfriends negativity in my life I just don't understand and I can't take it anymore. But goodluck to you, you told a very good story. I have a daughter and my fiance has a daughter. I love them just the same, I’ve known my future stepdaughter since she was one. Our children get along just like sisters. Its his babymomma who has the problem for no reason at all. I love my fiance and his daughter and I love our childrens relationship but I can’t take to much of his exgirlfriends negativity in my life I just don’t understand and I can’t take it anymore. But goodluck to you, you told a very good story.

]]> By: » The Matchmaker: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-2768 » The Matchmaker: An Overshare The Pursuit of Harpyness Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:02:10 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-2768 [...] was in the mood for love.  A year after the breakup from hell, with a few obliging rebound men in the rearview mirror, I decided I needed a new boyfriend.  And [...] [...] was in the mood for love.  A year after the breakup from hell, with a few obliging rebound men in the rearview mirror, I decided I needed a new boyfriend.  And [...]

]]> By: Brenna http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-1761 Brenna Thu, 19 Feb 2009 00:01:43 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-1761 This is incredibly beautiful and I'm so glad you shared it. This is incredibly beautiful and I’m so glad you shared it.

]]> By: randomgirl http://www.harpyness.com/2009/02/12/on-not-becoming-a-stepmom-an-overshare/comment-page-1/#comment-1509 randomgirl Mon, 16 Feb 2009 19:09:47 +0000 http://www.harpyness.com/?p=1219#comment-1509 Oh God. I'm in a relationship (2 years next month) with a wonderful man who has a 4 year old daughter (she was 2 when I met her). I love him, and adore her. But he has said he doesn't want to have more children. I'm not sure where this leaves us. I'm not 100% sure that I do want to have kids. I would be fine with not having any, except I wonder if being around his child would make me pine away. I cry about this sometimes, and we have talked about it but not reached any resolution. And it's not like my feelings for him are lessening. Thank you for writing this. I'm not sure how it will turn out for me, but it's good to know someone else has been through this. Oh God. I’m in a relationship (2 years next month) with a wonderful man who has a 4 year old daughter (she was 2 when I met her). I love him, and adore her. But he has said he doesn’t want to have more children. I’m not sure where this leaves us. I’m not 100% sure that I do want to have kids. I would be fine with not having any, except I wonder if being around his child would make me pine away. I cry about this sometimes, and we have talked about it but not reached any resolution. And it’s not like my feelings for him are lessening. Thank you for writing this. I’m not sure how it will turn out for me, but it’s good to know someone else has been through this.

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