Comments on: On Virtual High School Reunions: An Overshare

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 18:09:43 +0000

I had the same experience, too.

And…I’m grateful for it. I think in a lot of my nerdtasticness, I just plain refused to get to know people who weren’t into books, theatre, and band. How silly is that? I’m looking forward to my 10-year reunion–I was so afraid of getting hurt in high-school, I missed out of getting to know a lot of very cool folk…

By: PhDork

PhDork — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:03:48 +0000

Maritsa: YOU WERE ON JEOPARDY!? Ooooh, come sit by me! Are you in NYC? There is a seriously hard trivia night at a bar in Williamsburg that I go to from time to time, and I NEED MOAR BRANES to win.

By: Maritsa

Maritsa — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:45:47 +0000

I just joined FB last week (I am hopelessly lame) and so far no one from high school has found me. I’m guessing they’d have a hard time spelling my name, so I’m probably safe for a little while. No one was horrifically mean to me, but I do not look forward to hearing from anyone I’m not still in contact with (which would be everyone from HS except for three people).

What I’m really dreading is being friended by an ex-friend who dropped me senior year of college after I started dating my husband. I do hate that bitch, and there’s no way she’s become nice in the last 9 years.

Also, so jealous of you Quiz Bowl people. We didn’t have that, and I would have KICKED ASS at it. Seriously! I was on Jeopardy and everything. My trivia cred is solid.

By: bellethellama

bellethellama — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 03:01:07 +0000

With the advent of Facebook, I’ve had no desire to go to my ten-year reunion because I know enough about my classmates to know that I have nothing to discuss with them, at least right now. Maybe in 20 years I will feel differently, but the advent of Facebook has actually made people I liked in high school unlikable now, mostly because they are either dull, too focused on their special-snowflakness, or too eager to dive into the panties of my former classmates that I have no desire in going to a dinner where we all compare career achievements like they are fucking merit badges on the sash that is life. I have my friends from that period and that’s more than enough for me, you know?

It has been nice to be reached out to by people who I thought were way too cool to notice me (not that they were mean, but that we just didn’t run in the same circles and instead just had some classes together), but I have no desire to reach out to the girls who gave me dirty looks because I dared to date an otherwise unattached guy who their friend decided she’d marry after college, nor do I seek their approval.

By: BeckySharper

BeckySharper — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:52:10 +0000

Team Captain here too, bitchez! (And yeah, the other two players on my team were boys. WIN)

By: funnyface

funnyface — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:45:37 +0000

I’m glad to see the other Quiz Bowlers! TEAM CAPTAIN BABY!

By: BeckySharper

BeckySharper — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 19:14:01 +0000

@funnyface, PhDork: QUIZ BOWL REPRESENT!

By: PhDork

PhDork — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:05:24 +0000

WOOOOOO, QUIZ BOWL!!!

Ahem.

I was neither popular nor pariah, but I am happy that HS is over. I left that town for a whole list of reasons, and I’m glad it’s in my rearview mirror. There are a number of people I’m glad to have reconnected with, even if the surfacey, “hey-there!” FB way. I don’t wish anyone ill, but I didn’t go to my 10-year reunion, partly because it was poorly timed, and partly because most of the people I’d want to see wouldn’t be there either–it would be a gym full of people who never left home, never even considered it.

And as much mellowing as happens over time, I’ve always found the opposite is equally true: people really don’t change. The judgy, super-religious girl is still judgy and super-religious, the shallow soccer player is still shallow and soccer-playing, just with bad knees. Et cetera. I was dorky then, et voila.

By: BeSarcastic

BeSarcastic — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 17:25:37 +0000

Becky, this was my experience. To a T. All of it. And I had the same pleasant reaction you did — I can’t believe how adulthood levels the playing field, in many ways. These old high school students on Facebook are now just people — some with families, some with fabulous careers, etc. I think I’m just to a really great point in my life; I’m no longer projecting my teenage insecurities onto them, and they me.

By: funnyface

funnyface — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:16:47 +0000

High school was neither the best time of my life nor the worst. I was smart, very involved in nerdtastic activities like band, the paper, and the Quiz Bowl team, and I had a small group of core girlfriends (most of whom I had known since the third grade) with whom I’m still in touch to this day. They’re the types who, whenever we get together, even if we haven’t spoken in months, we can just pick back up wherever we left off. I was in student council and most of my AP classes with all the popular kids, so we were friendly even though we didn’t hang out outside of our school activities. Now I’m Facebook friends with most of them, and we’re still the same sort of loosely-in-touch that we always were.

I will say that I really found “my people” in college. The friends I made there (a tight group of English major girls and a handful of boys who all managed to come out of the closet by the time we graduated) are more like a family, and I miss them fiercely now that I live far from all of them.