It seems that you think I come here to get people upset. I like to think that I do contribute to the discussion but when I disagree with someone I’ll let them know, and when I agree I will do the same.
I could just write sarcasm after every light hearted joke I make, but what’s the point of being sarcastic if you always have to let it be known.

@SarahMC: That is a very good question? But I think most people with common sense will realize that either comment is just a generalized statement.

I said what I said because reading Kitkin’s and Cimorene’s comments it did come off to me as if they really did/do want to be with women, but since they lived in a city with predominately heterosexuals they just deiced to date men. If that is not the case then I stand corrected, but that is how their comments came across to me.

I married my husband because I love him and wanted (and still want) to spend the rest of my life with him. End of story. I don’t “love men” or “love women,” in general, although I feel and always have felt like I could be in a romantic and sexual relationship with the right person, regardless of her or his gender. I have found that right person, and he happens to have a penis and identify as male. So. I love one man and we have agreed to spend the rest of our lives together. Period. Sorry you won’t get the opportunity to date him because I’m busy hogging the dudes. /eye roll

What you said was extremely shitty, PepsiCoke. Thanks, PhDork, I just felt I had to say something myself, too.

PepsiCoke: You’re not sorry. You’re being rude and condescending, and that shit is not welcome here. If you have something to add to the conversation, that’s one thing, but you’re basically scolding other readers as man-haters (and boy, you know how true that is!) and telling Cimorene to quit bogarting the eligible dudes. All I can say is: Srsly? Why are you here?

I’m sorry to hear that. It seems like you (and Kithkin) decided to settle for whatever you could get. I date men because I love men, because I like being with men, and I date men that are special to me. I mean is there really any other reason to date a man (or a woman). If you want to be with women but you’re dating men out of convenience, then not only is it unfair to you it is unfair to him (not to mention the many single hetero girls out there).

Oh my it gets my blood boiling just thinking about it. I totally made them my arch nemeses for the next two years. And I intend to crush them with my Crazy Feminist Logick. (It’s actually working well so far.)

This is also a very frustrating subject for me because I am a queer woman dating a straight man. And when all my friends from college found out I was dating a guy, it was like Another one bites the dust. Which is sad. But also, so many women who I dated and who dated women exclusively in college (also went to a women’s college) began to date men upon re-entering the Real World. It’s so hard to be queer in such a heteronormative place. I’m dating a man not because he’s a man and I love men, or because I wanted to date a man for once, or even because he’s all that special*. I’m dating a man because I couldn’t meet any lesbians in this town when I moved here from Boston. When you’re spending 98% of your time with hetero folk, it’s unsurprising that your chances of finding a suitable same-sex relationship partner hover at about 2%.

*though of course he is–but I certainly didn’t know it when I drunkenly (very drunkenly) kissed him that fateful day so many moons ago.