This professor should be called on his demeaning language, he should be told (privately at first) in no uncertain terms that this kind of verbiage is often what triggers women into eating disorders in the first place!

I am so sorry you’re having to put up with this.

I’m recovering from an ED-NOS, and if I had heard this bullshit when I was in college, in the throes of my disorder, I doubt I would be in recovery now.

Fuck him and his mixed metaphors, too.

Forgive me for saying things you already know just to show my support. You are right about the situation. If you feel that a sexual discrimination complaint is too extreme, you could still put in a complaint to the department chair, the faculty congress, or the dean’s office.

Bull. He’s creating a hostile environment, an environment where you feel belittled by the professor and where he encourages others to belittle you. The fact that it’s as a woman rather than as you personally should not make a difference.

That’s how organizations get around enforcing anti-discrimination laws, though. They use weaselly pseudo-logic to excuse their utter lack of action, the bastards. Telling you to go by yourself and confront this creep face to face is effectively telling you that they don’t value you, your academic career, or your personal safety. I wish I could say I was surprised that a female ombudsman would do such a thing, but I’m not. Her bread is buttered on the Patriarchy side and she knows it.

Incidentally, I’m sorry if it seemed like I was railing at you to do something when you already had. That probably seemed insensitive. Hopefully these “Offensive Professor” posts help you dissipate some of this dude’s dead-skunk misogyny.

Since the Ombudswoman was so, um, helpful (like you’re actually going to talk to the guy), how about an anonymous note? You could simply phrase it as “on behalf on several women in the class.”

“You can eat once you get married.”

But not too much! Because men hate it when their wives get fat! And then you’ll get divorced and it will be All Your Fault and then if you’re a single mom, well good fucking luck.

Oh my god. I think I’m going to vom. Congratulations, Professor.

even if you want to be a dick about marriage, why are you trying to act like men don’t have to watch their weight to find a willing partner? it’s just gross on SO MANY LEVELS.

Maybe you could wait until after the class is over and then send him a letter or something so you don’t have to deal with him face to face, but at least you could *maybe* encourage him to tone it down in the future.