Comments on: So Much For True Love

By: sarah.of.a.lesser.god

sarah.of.a.lesser.god — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 23:35:47 +0000

@Tracy: Don’t vomit, my dear. Just prove them wrong by living your own life without relying on a man to provide!

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 23:21:12 +0000

this really does make me want to vomit.

By: Redhead_Reading

Redhead_Reading — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 15:31:05 +0000

I know a girl who wants to marry a rich old man. Which I think is insane for many reasons, also there’s risks about marrying a man for money you don’t think about, he is likely to be older and since he actually owns the money he will find it very easy to control your whole life, and what sort of man marries a woman whose only after his money, anyway? Personally, I want to earn all my money myself, aren’t I weird?

By: Spark

Spark — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:58:50 +0000

@Cimorene: one of us… one of us… Love your comment. I recently described myself as a “married person who doesn’t believe in legal marriage.” I mean, I compromise my feminist principles pretty often to get by, but at least with this one I got some nice stuff. My married life is exactly like my unmarried life, but with a kitchen aid stand mixer and a le creuset dutch oven.

By: Cimorene

Cimorene — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:25:16 +0000

Oh man at first I thought this was going to be about me.

I am very much opposed to marriage. I’m all, “Why legalize gay marriage! ABOLISH ALL MARRIAGE!” (like in the delightful movie Itty Bitty Titty Committee). And I try not to talk about it around pro-marriage folk, because they get defensive and judgey. Or, they think I’m judgey. Which I am, but not about this necessarily.

Anyway, my ManFriend knows I am politically against marriage. I’m also mildly politically against heterosexuality, and yet I date a man, so we all cave in some ways. But anyway, he is also against marriage, and we have a delightful relationship unfraught with much of your average male/female relatinship because he knows of my stance on Men (I hates them!) and marriage (evil!), so we’re all good.

But then last week I had to go to a family friend’s wedding shower. And I was dreading it. Loudly, with many long words and funny voices. Then I returned from it, and man friend was all, “So… How… was it?” and I was like, “It wasn’t that bad. Actually I think we should TOTALLY GET MARRIED. She got so many cool gifts. SHE GOT AN ELECTRIC GRIDDLE. I WANT AN ELECTRIC GRIDDLE. LET’S GET HITCHED!!!” (And I use the annoying capital letters and multiple explanation points on purpose, because that was how I was a-talking.)

Luckily, he pointed out that it would be far less expensive to merely go purchase my own electric griddle than it would to get married.

But now I’m worried about myself. Cimorene: She Who Abandons Her Social and Political Principles At the Prospect of Exciting Housewares.

But seriously, ya’ll. So many chocolate chip pancakes could be made on that thing.

By: soulsonic force

soulsonic force — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 20:05:29 +0000

@beckysharper: Thanks for that, it helped. You’re right, I don’t have to explain it, or feel guilty for it. I sure can’t change the fact. Who knows when we will really need it.

I love my job and my field and tell my coworkers that I would never quit even even if I won the lottery. They look at me weird, but they don’t know “my secret”, and know that I truly mean it.

By: GeekGirlsRule

GeekGirlsRule — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 19:40:44 +0000

I have made far more money than the Mister for the majority of our relationship, including supporting him while he went to school after finishing up my BA. It really used to bug the hell out of my in-laws, but I think they’ve finally adapted to the idea that it’s just going to be that way. I’m the one with the obscenely huge skillset, and the Mister is a chef who discovered that he really, really, really hates cooking for strangers who have no taste.

By: SarahMC

SarahMC — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 19:18:43 +0000

I don’t particularly like working. I’d be pleased as punch to quit my job and devote my life to rescuing dogs. But I do like earning my own money (even if I blow it all right away), and would never want to be reliant on one person to “keep” me.
This isn’t post-feminist; it’s ANTI-feminist, and it’s dangerous advice.

By: kithkin

kithkin — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 19:02:43 +0000

funnyface: SAME. I mean, I have the luxury of being a student so sometimes I think I want a 9-5, a thought that leaves my mind as quickly as it flew in. For the first time since high school I didn’t have a job last summer and I spent the entire summer going slowly completely mad. I was such a weirdo, too; because I hadn’t seen anyone all day, by the time Husband got home from work I was all up in his face when really he needed to unwind. It was bad for me and for my marriage when I was neither in classes nor working. I’ll never make that mistake again.

By: funnyface

funnyface — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 18:54:44 +0000

kithkin: I know! I mean, I doubt these self-avowed gold diggers are really planning to use their lives of leisure to volunteer or do anything else of value. I hate working. Have like, no ambition to keep up the 9-5, and sort of plan to stop doing it if/when I have a kid, because I have the luxury to make that choice. Even so, my 3 months not working this fall taught me I’d go insane with nothing at all to do. If I’m ever not-working, I want to be writing and volunteering and taking classes and such.