Comments on: Not Sorry.

By: If You’re Asking, the Answer is Probably “No.” - The Pursuit of Harpyness

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 18:01:45 +0000

[...] of the last month, et cetera. (Am I a Bad Blogger?) Though I’ve written previous posts on not being sorry, women are coached to please and placate, and it manifests in nearly every aspect of [...]

By: PMS Got Your Tongue? - The Pursuit of Harpyness

PMS Got Your Tongue? - The Pursuit of Harpyness — Thu, 14 May 2009 17:00:23 +0000

[...] hate it when women do it to themselves! Last month, PhDork noted her displeasure with excessive, unnecessary apologies. Don’t be “sorry” for having an opinion and [...]

By: More Proof That People Have Too Much Damn Time on Their Hands - The Pursuit of Harpyness

Mon, 11 May 2009 17:29:59 +0000

[...] reasons for not saying your sorry — We have some of those. [...]

By: You’ve Got Me, Cher - The Pursuit of Harpyness

You’ve Got Me, Cher - The Pursuit of Harpyness — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 17:00:31 +0000

[...] tell you why. A lot of it has to do with PhDork telling you not to be sorry. When I was thirteen and the kind of child who spent Friday nights alone indoors because it was [...]

By: maisnon

maisnon — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 21:12:49 +0000

I call #1 the "Male Apology" - which is a *little* unfair, I know. It's the "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry that you're upset" apology. Translated: ".... and I take no responsibility for WHY you are upset/feel that way." I wrote about this a while ago.

By: Ariel

Ariel — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:59:36 +0000

I love this post. I used to apologize for having an opinion all the time. It took a while for me to realize that I’m not sorry for my opinion. Also, I totally call people out whenever they say “I’m sorry you feel that way.” That kind of apology really irks me.

By: Froufrou

Froufrou — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 20:53:21 +0000

I’ve been trying to get my roommate to stop doing it. She apologizes permanently, for every single thing.
It’s in debates that I tend to say “i think” etc. i always feel that if I don’t, someone is going to call me out on being to full of myself/arrogant. Which tends to happen if I don’t, even if I say the exact same things. Drives me crazy.

By: lalaland13

lalaland13 — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:26:10 +0000

I was just reading this, then looking over something for a co-worker. It was so weird, because I referred to something and she thought I meant something else, and it was all I could do to avoid saying “Sorry about that.” It was like my tongue almost started itching to say it, like it was some physical impulse. But there was nothing to be sorry for.

I clearly needed this post.

By: Tuesday Reading! « The Gender Blender Blog

Tuesday Reading! « The Gender Blender Blog — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:11:25 +0000

[...] you’re not really sorry then don’t say [...]

By: Spark

Spark — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 14:37:32 +0000

I had a teacher when I was younger who forbade qualifiers. (“I think… I’m not sure, but… maybe it could be…”) It was a great lesson and a hard habit to break.

I liberally use “sorry” when out and about. I like to think of it as the grease that keeps the gears of urban human interaction spinning smoothly, instead of being gummed up by crankiness and irritation.