So ladies, I have an update to my Friday post about my friend and her possibly assweaselly suitor .
As you may recall, my jogging buddy’s new love interest mentioned that he really wanted kids. Despite the fact that my friend is 40 and told him she wanted to adopt, he blithely told her he’d rather try for biological children because “doctors can really make miracles these days.” This drew my ire, and I pronounced him an assweasel for being so ignorant and cavalier about sentencing her to the invasive misery of fertility treatments while he just wanked into a cup. Many of you feminazi bonerkillers agreed with my assessment.
This morning’s jog with my friend left me feeling a little better. In a subsequent date, she revealed to the gentleman in question that she had already had fertility treatments, unsuccessfully, and reiterated that she did not rule out adoption. Fortunately, he immediately backpedalled and said, that yes, he’d be totally fine with adoption. Curiously, he also revealed that he and his ex-wife had tried for some time to conceive, with no success. They didn’t try fertility treatments and not long after that, his ex-wife decided she really didn’t want children after all, which precipitated the breakup of the marriage. It doesn’t seem to have occurred to the wannabe daddy that perhaps his ex-wife, when faced with fertility treatments or childlessness, opted for the latter. And tellingly, he never had his sperm tested, so, as my friend said, “maybe he was the infertile one and not her.” Yes, because fertility–or lack thereof–is exclusively a woman’s issue! Babeez are always our problem, amirite??
I’m willing to back off my original assertion that the dude is a total assweasel–or at least, he’s not a total assweasel on this issue (he may be an assweasel for all other kinds of reasons, which he might reveal if they continue to date). I do still think, however, that he sounds ignorant–and willfully so–about reproduction and what it means to start a family. For a middle-aged man who clearly wants a children, that’s just a shame, and it will be a real liability for him and whoever he winds up with.