Comments on: On Dicks (Specifically, Michael Lewis)

By: But I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For… - The Pursuit of Harpyness

Fri, 17 Jul 2009 13:02:18 +0000

[...] why is it men won’t get a vasectomy but think pregnancy & childbirth are no big deal — We’re still trying to figure that one out. [...]

By: scamps

scamps — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 22:19:46 +0000

If this shmucko wound up having the newer procedure that doesn’t even require stitches, then…well, his whining would be beyond sad, for starters.

By: Lyndsay

Lyndsay — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 01:46:29 +0000

Um, if he wanted a chance at having more reproductive control maybe he should’ve changed more diapers and gotten up with the kids more mornings. My partner knows that if he wants kids he’d better not be like the men certain female relatives of mine married. I might want a kid but not if I’m doing a great majority of the kid raising. And yeah, I just don’t get why they feel how they do about vasectomies after they’ve seen their partners give birth. Come on.

By: kvs

kvs — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:10:55 +0000

I’m a little bit psychic (well okay, not really). But anyway, I see a divorce and a new wife a couple of years down the line for this guy. Because it seems like he kind of hates and resents his wife for somehow forcing him into marriage and fatherhood and now forcing him to be “gelded.” It just smells like a huge male midlife crisis – “the bitch is taking all my fun away!” I bet that in six or seven years he’ll be writing a book about his quest for vasectomy reversal and how much he loves parenting his “new” family – any takers?

By: ML

ML — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 04:15:50 +0000

oh, i also meant to add that i just finished taking a summer course all on repro rights, pregnancy, birth, etc at my university & the vasectomy conversation was infuriating. i loudly suggested that it was very much a matter of sexism for the men in the room who argued that it was “de-masculating” or they “shouldn’t be expected to do that” and they were pissed as anything about me accusing them of being sexist because of those comments. little incidents like that make me laugh aloud when people suggest that feminism is a “finished” movement.

By: ML

ML — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 04:11:41 +0000

ohhhh this is horrifying. I just ordered that memoir, damn it all to hell!

the comments, however, are hilarious. i mean, i die. you harpies are just a riot. pouring privilege over his cereal, soaking in a tub of entitlement…

i was legitimately giggling aloud.

By: tucknroll

tucknroll — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:17:55 +0000

My fiance has an old friend that is married with 4 kids.He’s about 35 and his wife is barely 30. Last summer he came over to my house, had a few drinks, and got a bit of an attitude. One of our other friends was joking with him that the 4th kid was the last one, right? You guys are done,right? Just some jokes between friends. I suggested that perhaps he get a vasectomy. He got all offended and said “I’m not gonna get fixed! I ain’t no dog!” I almost flipped my lid. His wife has had 4 kids, gained a ton of weight, gone through how many hours of labor, and he can’t do that one little thing for her.I explained to him that it wasn’t such a big deal, it’s a quick and simple procedure. He wasn’t trying to hear it, and implied that getting “snipped” would reduce his manhood.What an a$$hole. I haven’t seen them since, it still enrages me almost a year later. Yeah buddy, you’re a real MAN.
ugh.

By: mischiefmanager

mischiefmanager — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 00:28:53 +0000

“Take one for the team”? Gotta love those sports metaphors.

By: Mel

Mel — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:50:03 +0000

@Meg Thanks for looking up the failure rate. IMO it’s the easiest and most fool-proof method. Even getting your tubes tied can fail, and its a heck of a lot more involved than a vasectomy!

By: Meg

Meg — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 18:49:41 +0000

@Mel I figured there must be some sort of failure rate, but it’s got to be below 1%, yes? Which makes it insanely good.

Update: Just did a little Googling, and it looks like the failure rate is about 0.0094%. Though I’m sure the failures in these cases are pretty freaking shocking. Can you imagine? Yikes.

http://www.urotoday.com/browse_categories/male_infertility/vasectomys_failure_rate_in_contraception_about_1.html