Comments on: Be a Bitch–CTFAD Edition

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:23:30 +0000

You did the right thing, but I really hate that doing the right thing, telling someone they made a dick move, standing up for yourself is called Being a Bitch.

By: la sooz

la sooz — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:55:43 +0000

Becky, honestly you have my respect and awe. I just don’t have the mental fortitude to have multiple things going on, it sounds completely exhausting! But then I think my reluctance to be vulnerable cuts me off from a lot. Anyway, good reply to him, and it sounds like he learned something, which is the point anyway!

By: BeckySharper

BeckySharper — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:41:20 +0000

@Cjudy: I’ve been in situations like this with dudes who preferred e-mail and I felt bad about doing it via e-mail…I would just leave him an voice mail telling him to call you back so you can talk. If he doesn’t and he just wants to text, then he’s made the decision and you can do what you have to do.

By: bluebears

bluebears — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:25:20 +0000

dating is so fun!

By: Cjudy

Cjudy — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:16:46 +0000

Shoot…I’ve been casually hooking up with a guy for a couple of months and have decided I’m done. Most of our meet-ups have been initiated by txt and I was thinking it was a legitimate way to say it was done. After reading this post and the responses, I’m going to be an adult and at least call. Now the question is, if he doesn’t pick up, can I just leave a voicemail?

By: mischiefmanager

mischiefmanager — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:59:00 +0000

Stay classy, McK.

His loss, all the way.

By: PhDork

PhDork — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 17:37:49 +0000

I think you were marvelously restrained, and yet said exactly what he needed to hear. Cheers to you, jeers to Mc(Jer)K.

By: Aftercancer

Aftercancer — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:11:30 +0000

Definitely not too much bitch, hopefully you have saved some other women the lameness of a text break up, at least from this guy!

By: BeckySharper

BeckySharper — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 14:39:33 +0000

@Spark: His was a text sent to my phone. I e-mailed him back b/c I don’t like tapping out messages longer than few words.

Yeah, I didn’t think I was being too much of a bitch, as bitchery goes. I always think that when getting dumped, you gotta keep your dignity, and turning into a shrieking mess usually doesn’t help with that (unless you’re, say, Jenny Sanford, in which case, sure, yell and scream and throw shit).

By: Spark

Spark — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 14:32:08 +0000

Wait, was it an email or a text? Or are they now the same thing because phones are so advanced? (Does it matter?) In any case, I applaud being a bitch, as usual, though I have to say, your reply really wasn’t bitchy at all. His next girlfriends thank you.