Comments on: “Huh, So You’re Gay Again?”

By: sarah.of.a.lesser.god

sarah.of.a.lesser.god — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 01:53:49 +0000

@BHB: Come on, I shout my internet marriage to you from the rooftops!

By: Isa

Isa — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 01:19:54 +0000

@BrutallyHonestBabes: My partner and I don’t want kids, but we still talk about it occasionally, and a few years ago I asked how he would feel if we had gay or bi children. We’re on exactly the same page as you. I just don’t understand why the gender of the person they’re with could be more important than whether or not they love each other and treat each other with respect and kindness.

By: BrutallyHonestBabes

BrutallyHonestBabes — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:41:07 +0000

You better not tell them you are internet gay married.

I honestly just don’t see why people care one way or the other. I can understand more with family members, because they care because they love. But honestly, if I only had one kid and they were gay or bi, I just wouldn’t care. I just would want them to have enough respect for themselves that they choose a respectful partner.

By: vegkitty

vegkitty — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 04:51:27 +0000

I identify myself as queer. Truthfully, I fall somewhere in between heterosexual and bisexual. In my mind, I don’t want to limit myself to love someone with a label. I’ve only dated men in the past, but I’ve occasionally been attracted to females. If I happen to fall in love with a woman and want to spend the rest of my life with her, so be it. I’m not going to throw away a good relationship just because the person doesn’t fit into my ideal gender, looks, personality, choice of clothing, pet, etc. etc.

rant over.

By: J.D.Regent

J.D.Regent — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 02:54:24 +0000

But bisexuals get disappeared into lesbian relationships as well as straight ones.

By: sarah.of.a.lesser.god

sarah.of.a.lesser.god — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:38:00 +0000

@Clare: Yeah, it sounds like it’s hard to formulate a response to either of those comments. It is incredibly difficult to weather the “you’ll-end-up-with-a-guy” comments, because it completely disregards what my orientation is. It’s not a “waiting-for-Prince-Charming” sexuality, but even mentioning that yes, I did have a long relationship with a guy quite recently, tends to undermine my bisexuality in some people’s eyes. Incredibly difficult.

By: Clare K. R. Miller

Clare K. R. Miller — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 23:58:19 +0000

This conversation reminds me of something a lesbian friend of mine once said. I don’t remember how it came up, but she said that she wouldn’t date bi girls because they will always go back to guys. She knew I was bi. That really hurt. I couldn’t even really formulate a response to it.

Then there’s the girl I met while volunteering at my local library who said she was bi and something about it not being so bad that her boyfriend was in jail because she could spend more time with her girlfriend… that was just weird.

By: RocktheDebit

RocktheDebit — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 23:27:15 +0000

@Isa: That was a problem I had with the planning of the bisexual float at Pride – a majority of those marching were also in the local pansexual meetup group, so they decided to make it a joint float. Unlike some stereotypes about the LGBTQ(etc) community, it’s awfully hard to refute that one with non-verbal signals like clothing.

By: FRB

FRB — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 22:58:13 +0000

@Blondegrlz: Well-said. And maybe off-topic, but I’m seeing a lot of overlap between this and the More to Love spectacle of the “only” man who is attracted to women of a certain size.

I just want to yell ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE ARE ATTRACTED TO ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE. IT’S NOT UP TO YOU AND YOUR PREJUDICES. Repeatedly.

By: Isa

Isa — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 22:06:32 +0000

@RocktheDebit: my mother’s attitude is similar. I like it.

I’m marrying a person of the dudelier persuasion, but I am still bisexual. If you marry a person of the opposite sex, they don’t automatically take away your Bisexual Card. I really hate the attitude that bi folk want to “have it both ways” or “just want to appear cool and different” or “are too afraid to admit to being gay.”

The “bisexuals are greedy sluts” stereotype especially pisses me off, the idea that people who are bisexual always want to have a man AND a woman. I am pretty happily monogamous, thanks (or as one of my gay pals said, “You’re bisexual. You’re not greedy!”).