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Know Your Audience

Posted by SarahMC in Thoughts, Humor, Privilege on Jul 30, 2009, 11:00am | 4 comments

My posting has been light this week, as I’m out of town at a work conference and haven’t had much time for reading or writing. I didn’t think I’d be able to use any of my experiences here as blog fodder, as the Married Men on Business haven’t been bothering me lately. But JessMess’ suggestion in our anniversary thread reminded me of something else.

Yesterday, a motivational speaker “entertained” and “inspired” us during lunch. Motivational speakers: nothing could be less motivating (to me) – an hour full of hokey made-up stories, goofy slogans and forced audience participation. I did laugh at a few of the man’s jokes; he had good comic timing. But most sorely need updating from the 1980s, at least. And right off the bat, I knew the speaker did not have me in mind when he wrote his shtick, because I am a woman. About half the people at the conference were women. His jokes weren’t off-color or dirty, but there were some wife jokes and they were told in that knowing way, as if to say, “you know what I mean, dear listeners – and by ‘listeners’ I mean men.”

The default audience member is presumed a man. And if not, at least she will relate to what life is like for a man, recognize her position as the Other, and double over in laughter. I am not writing this to demonize our speaker.  He seemed like a very friendly, kind person. I’d much prefer him to this guy. But patriarchy is everywhere. I see unrecognized privilege everywhere.

And not just the male variety. The speaker also had us all get up out of our seats a bunch of times – “Now everybody stand up. Come on! Get up!” As a person who had just eaten lunch and was already dog tired, I was annoyed. If I had been in pain, I’d have been hurt and frustrated. Standing up is not possible or comfortable for all people. There were lots of women and older folks in the audience. His performance was not well-targeted, even if nobody else was offended or struck by his unchecked privilege. It’s important to know one’s audience. Or, at least, to refrain from making assumptions about one’s audience based on one’s own identity.

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4 Responses to “Know Your Audience”

  1. JessMess says:
    July 30, 2009 at 11:43 am

    Oh, SarahMC, the old wifey-as-the-ball-in-chain comedy jokes are so tired. I’m done with that crap. To have a motivational speaker come up with such brilliance is a little insulting.
    Thanks for the shout out!

  2. mischiefmanager says:
    July 30, 2009 at 5:16 pm

    Did you get to write an evaluation for the speaker? I wonder who hired this guy. The guy probably figures that as long as he keeps getting gigs, he has no reason to change his schtick.

    Motivational speakers are way too churchy/cultish for me. I want to respond the way my friends and I did when were exhorted to jump up and chant by cheerleaders at high school pep rallies-staying seated with a stony glare directed at the culprits.

  3. BeckySharper says:
    July 30, 2009 at 5:21 pm

    I hate that kind of crap. Fortunately the industry I work in is too poor to pay for them most of the time, but the few times I’ve been forced to sit through something similar I always wanted to say “You know what would really motivate me? A good night’s sleep after a long day of meetings.”

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