As a child I wanted to be around my fifth grade teacher, Ms. B, all the time. She was smart and sarcastic and loved me as a student. She complimented me on my “permanent” on the first day of class. I felt that we were kindred spirits and I loved her as a teacher and a person. I was devastated to leave elementary school for the big, bad middle school. I wanted to stay with Ms. B. I thought about her often during my waking hours and dreamed about her at night. My crush was not a sexual one but I would not have turned down a snuggle.
I crushed on Nancy Kerrigan for about a year during middle school. I didn’t know whether I wanted to be her friend, or be her. There were some weird things going on inside me. These days, I have girl crushes on the Obama women, Tina Fey and Kate Winslet. I have not crushed on someone I know personally in a few years.
I have come to realize that this term can be problematic due to the presumed heterosexuality of the “crusher.” A “girl crush” is otherwise known as a “crush” if you’re a lesbian. It’s a bit twee. But, if you’ve got a crush on someone, who is (s)he? Guys should answer too!