Kate Harding has really said all that need be said.
But I’d like to give a shoutout to commenter “lululemming” on The Awl, who contributes this thought:
Here’s a poem I use to remember what constitutes actual rape. It works 100 per cent of the time.
Ugly and stranger/ Rape-rape that’s real danger
Famous and monied/ Get over it honey!
Raped while on ‘luudes? Dudes will be dudes.
Raped while a W.A.S.P/ quick, call the cops!
Raped by Joe Francis? Well, you showed him your asses.
Raped and right race, Hello, Nancy Grace!
Perhaps this should be printed up on small wallet-sized cards and distributed to children at birth.