Tuesday, January 26 marks the 1-year anniversary of The Pursuit of Harpyness (omgcanyoubelieveit?), so each day this week, we’re gonna have ourselves a little introspective seminar about the experience thus far. Join us for some omphaloskepsis, won’t you?
What was the most surprising thing you learned or experienced during the past year?
BeckySharper: I have to say, I wrote one post that led to something transformative but utterly unexpected. In October wrote a post about how my father called me a slut and how hurt and angry I was–not expecting that he would read it (he knew about the blog but had never seemed particularly interested in it). He was absolutely furious and deeply wounded, both by what I’d written and by how harsh some of the comments were. This led to a very emotional showdown that, frankly, had been a couple decades in the making. As painful as it was for both of us, it was cathartic and I think our relationship was made stronger and more understanding because of it.
(Don’t look for the post now, though. While I absolutely stand by what I wrote, it was a real thorn in my father’s side, so out of consideration for his feelings, I deleted it.)
PhDork: It’s weird, though, how being a feminist on the internet has made me more of a feminist–or at least a louder feminist, whatever–in life. Writing and reading with you and our readers have honed my spidey-senses, and I’m much less tolerant of sexist bullshit. Of course, it’s also meant that I can’t enjoy certain things like I used to.
BeckySharper: I completely agree about how being a feminist on the internet affects IRL sensibilities and interactions. I am definitely more outspoken on feminist issues and much quicker to call out sexist behavior. The downside is that things which I might have shrugged off in the past now get under my skin more. But I can live with that.
sarah.of.a.lesser.god: I’ve learned never to expect a certain volume of reactions on a given post, and that the posts you might least expect to touch a nerve are the ones that generate a huge amount of discussion.
BeckySharper: So true.
PhDork: Well, some things are fairly safe bets, like porn, but you’re right. It’s been a good experience for me about learning to let go of fears of “how will this land?” Who knows? Throw it out there.
SarahMC: I am pleasantly surprised that my boyfriend is interested in, and keeps up with, the blog. It’s comforting to know I have his support in this endeavor.
PhDork: Do you think his reading it has had effects on him IRL, or in your relationship?
SarahMC: It’s lead to him asking me, “You bloggin’ it again?” when I’m paying too much attention to the computer and not enough to him, heh.
SarahMC: I am surprised we have not had an influx of trolls like most other feminist blogs do.
PhDork: Does that mean we’re doing something right, or something wrong?
BeckySharper: I dunno. Maybe they fear our harpy talons? I guess this is the rare exception to the usual blogosphere rule that all attention is good attention; I’m totally fine with not getting troll-ish attention. I feel like we get a lot of on-line love from like-minded bloggers, and I feel great about that.