Comments on: Where do you think “Barefoot and pregnant” originates?

By: Comment of the Day - The Pursuit of Harpyness

Comment of the Day - The Pursuit of Harpyness — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 00:46:16 +0000

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Troll Poetry Part 3: The Douchening - The Pursuit of Harpyness — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 15:01:56 +0000

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By: Ms.Bliss

Ms.Bliss — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 02:59:02 +0000

mischiefmanager-I will have to put it on my reading list. We have a great local library in my town. I bet I can find it there.
GeekGirlsRule-That is the kind of situation I was thinking of. In the beginning of a relationship, It can be difficult to tell the difference between a genuinely kind person and an emotional con man.

By: GeekGirlsRule

GeekGirlsRule — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:13:20 +0000

@BeckySharper and @ Ms.Bliss

Remember though that controlling dickbags rarely look/act like controlling dickbags from the start. They start out kind and loving and wonderful, and generally start the descent into controlling and abusive behavior in very controlled and careful ways.

By: mischiefmanager

mischiefmanager — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 14:34:48 +0000

Late, but…

Ms Bliss, run, do not walk, to the nearest bookstore and get yourself a copy of “Our Bodies, Ourselves”. It’s an essential text for every woman. I gave a copy to our daughter before she left for college.

I am convinced that women’s power to control reproduction is the core of the conflicts between men and women. Men (as a group; obviously, individuals may vary) hate and resent our ability to decide whether their precious DNA will survive in the world. And the result is that *they* try to control us-in every aspect of our lives.

By: Alice Winfree Bowron

Alice Winfree Bowron — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:35:19 +0000

Jenna – I am a rape survivor, both from date-rape and attempted marital rape. In your statement you clearly describe a rape: “I told him to stop. To make a terrifying story short, he stopped only long enough to pull the condom off and then held me down.” I hope for your sake that you have had support and help to deal with that hell. I am relieved to hear that you are physicall alright. (I had to have repairative surgery.) Thank you so much for your bravery in sharing your truth with others.

By: Ms.Bliss

Ms.Bliss — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:13:34 +0000

Darn, I meant BeckySharper not BechySharper.

By: Ms.Bliss

Ms.Bliss — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 02:04:27 +0000

Thank you for your advise BechySharper. I completely agree that no one should be in a relationship with someone they don’t trust. If I have the slightest bad feeling about a guy I run like hell. Unfortunately my life experience has taught me that some people will not show controlling behavior until after their victims trust them.

By: BeckySharper

BeckySharper — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 00:51:58 +0000

@MsBliss: Talk with your doctor when you’re ready to be sexually active and ask her advice. I think so much of this also has to do with your relationship with your partner. I suspect that a lot of the men who do this kind of thing are obviously coercive and controlling in the first place. You shouldn’t feel like your birth control decisions should be influenced by your mistrust of your partner. If you mistrust your partner, that’s a sign you shouldn’t be with him.

By: Ms.Bliss

Ms.Bliss — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 00:26:52 +0000

I Am not sexually active yet, but I have been thinking about what kind of birth control would be best for me when the time comes. An IUD looks like the best option after reading this. I have heard that it can hurt a lot when it’s put in, but at least it would be harder for someone to sabotage.