It’s more than a little frustrating.

I hear this from my sister ALL the time. In fact, yesterday she was talking about how her husband is ‘friends’ with a woman she doesn’t know on FB, so my sister ‘friended’ her, “so [she] can see their wall-to-wall convos.” The other woman ignored the request because she doesn’t know my sister, and all shit ensued. Because CLEARLY this woman wants to sleep with my sister’s husband, and obviously, my sister’s husband can’t be trusted.

Oh, and it’s all Facebook’s fault.

@PhDArchaeologist:
I think societally enforced monogamy leads to cheating, if people (men and women) think the only way they are able to have relationships is to make long-term monogamous commitments even though it’s not what they prefer, then they are always going to be acting against their own desires. It seems the solution is getting away from the relationship shorthand society provides, and realizing that every time we have a relationship with someone everything has to be worked out for the first time.

I personally find monogamy is completely unworkable, so this is just my own skewed opinion.

He and his wife have six children and on his last deployment she opted to starting something with another man. When confronted with what happened she questioned him on his entire married life to her. His response while he was telling his story was, “it’s apparently been expected on her end since we have been married for me to do this so
why the fuck not.”

Not saying that I agree but it looks like it’s being reinforced that men will cheat and do. So now maybe (since most tend to take any excuse they can as it is) they are indeed following what is expected. Again, not saying it’s ok, I think it speaks loads on the moral character of a person who does things like this.

I actually have more respect for someone who is totally honest and just tells it like it is: “I like sex, and don’t want anything attached.” At least there is no question on level they are standing.

I don’t intend on starting a fight here, but I worry a lot about that and have trust issues, given that the past 5 relationships I have had ended because of a man cheating. I wonder if the stereotype has been pushed, so women are trained to believe that men can’t be faithful and men have been trained to believe they will cheat (no matter if they want to or not).

Look at all the famous men and political figures who are always in the media for cheating on their wives and then look at all of the recent chick flick movies that show men cheating on wives or girlfriends. It just seems that society has bred this sort of reaction.