Ivanyi said he was inspired to start demonstrating what he considers proper etiquette after witnessing the coarse behavior that some of the boys in his classes displayed toward the girls.
“Boys treat girls pretty roughly,” he said. “And there was so much disruption, so I decided to do something about it.”
Ivanyi is pleased with the results of the chivalry training.
“There’s a different tenor in the class, a gravity attached to the girls. They’ve been more feminized in the boys’ eyes,” Ivanyi said. “These girls are reading Jane Austen novels in class. For them, chivalry hasn’t gone out of style.”
Oh god this makes me so uncomfortable. They’ve been more feminized? Implementing different sets of rules for girls and boys will draw attention to the fact that the girls are female. I wish the article expanded on what sort of coarse behavior the boys were engaged in. Groping the girls? Calling them sexual slurs? I don’t know. I do know that the answer to sexual harassment is not more sexism. That the boys treated the girls like dirt was the problem; making them treat the girls like delicate flowers is not the solution.
I understand the man’s frustration with rowdy students. I’m not opposed to teaching kids manners and common courtesy; I wish adults would do so more often. But why must the approach be sexist? Girls and women don’t need chivalry. We need men to stop oppressing us. If boys are mistreating girls because they are girls, they need a dose of feminism.