Comments on: Say “Fuck That” To The Dress

By: karinova

karinova — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 05:51:04 +0000

I’m with Jex. I love overdressing, but no thanks on the so-called traditional wedding dress. BTW, those fluffy white confections are actually not TWDs; they’re overwrought debutante dresses. Which I guess is why IMO, most of them are a creepy, awkward combo of “childlike innocence” and “sexaaay!” Ew. Fuck that, indeed.

I know what I’m wearing, should I ever get married. I have a pattern for a gorgeous, totally impractical, completely fabulous Alexander McQueen skirt that I’ve been carefully saving for years. I fell in love immediately, but I the only thing I could ever justify wearing it to would be my own wedding. (Good thing I sew, because the original sold for like 6 grand or something. Talk about “impractical” and “fuck that”!)

Also? If I ever get married, SOMEBODY is wearing spats. If it has to be me, so be it, I don’t care. I freakin’ LOVE spats.

By: Imaginary

Imaginary — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 00:50:44 +0000

Wedding outfit? I’m thinking Johnny Depp’s Mad Hatter mixed with some atrocious looking poofy skirt. Course I’ll have to find someone to marry first… or date…

By: Ms Pinot

Ms Pinot — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 10:48:13 +0000

I absolutely love this movement.Wear what you want–it’s your special day!

By: Jex

Jex — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 21:48:48 +0000

I like the “outfit you’d never find another reason to wear” concept. I’m all about overdressing. Full skirt with polka dots and far too many crystals!
If I were not into dresses, full frock coat or tails, with an appropriate and outrageously expensive tophat. Maybe I’d wear the tophat either way, I haven’t decided.
I boils down to most weddings being essentially costume parties where not everyone wears a costume.

By: Tall-in-Heels

Tall-in-Heels — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 22:57:35 +0000

My mindset was that I was going to pick the kind of dress I’ve always wanted to wear, but had never had (and likely never would again have) the occasion to wear. For me, this was a one-shouldered, long black dress with some subtle beading down the side. I felt sophisticated, beautiful, but most of all, I felt like me. My choice raised a few eyebrows, but had I gone with something more traditional, I would have felt uncomfortable and like I was playing a part. And I figured that the day I was going to vow to spend the rest of my life with another human being was not a day on which I wanted to feel like anything less than exactly who I truly am, both inside and out.

By: Xenu01

Xenu01 — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 21:05:29 +0000

@chrisbean:

That sounds like us, except for the eloping part (my partner is very into signing the wedding certificate day of, etc)! Are you based on the East coast or west coast?

By: chrisbean

chrisbean — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 19:26:28 +0000

our plan is:

1. elope.
2. east coast party.
3. west coast party.

& fuck the dress. I’ll wear a style of dress I look and feel best in: wasp-waist, a-line, above-the-knee. Probably gray or blue; I would look like a corpse bride in white.

By: GreyLadyBast

GreyLadyBast — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:15:50 +0000

Nevermind the (Bullocks, ehere’s the Sex Pistols) Princess Bride bit. Me, if I’m ever deluded enough to get married again, I want the short-SHORT version from Spaceballs:

Priest: Do you?
Lonestar: Yes!
Priest: Do you?
Vespa: Yes!
Priest: Good, you’re married. Kiss ‘er!

I will also be in bare feet, and if I wear a white dress, it’ll be entirely ripped off from Galadriel’s in LOTR. But I’m more likely to wear a red-and-black or orange-and-blue Arwen-type fluttery-sleeves sort of thing, or wench-wear, or jeans, or something. But no damned shoes!

Bast

By: mischiefmanager

mischiefmanager — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:10:27 +0000

One great result of getting away from traditional wedding dresses would be undermining the parading of the bride as a piece of merchandise that can happen when the dress is revealing. I don’t mean to step on anyone’s toes here. But wedding dresses that are low cut and designed to show off the bride’s assets always seem to me to be a means of saying “look at what you missed, boys”.

By: cellocat

cellocat — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 06:59:58 +0000

I did get married in bright red. And apart from one person saying, “Oh, how, … interesting…” everyone was supportive and enthusiastic about it. Then again, I have cool friends. In fact, one of my friends who was the master of ceremonies, of sorts (we’d gotten hitched legally with two friends at the courthouse several months before the wedding) started off with the whole marriage thing from Princess Bride. We speculated that some of the attendees were thinking to themselves, “Why are they all laughing at that poor man with the speech impediment?” while everyone else was in hysterics.

The getting community together to celebrate aspect of the wedding was so wonderful. And I did enjoy wearing a dress made for me; I almost never wear anything other than jeans & black slacks, so it was a fun change for a day.

Thanks for the great site.