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By: Dutchie!

Dutchie! — Sun, 16 May 2010 14:02:12 +0000

17. “I’m scared of being hurt” means “I don’t fancy you as much as I thought I did.” You know it, we know it, and that is all that will be said on the matter.

This is a nice one, too – If this would be the general idea, a girl who finally finds the courage to tell a guy why she’s keeping a distance – because she’s scared – will chase away the guy, being even more scared to share her feelings with the next. Wonderful.

By: Taybeh Chaser

Taybeh Chaser — Sat, 15 May 2010 14:52:46 +0000

Stuff like this just makes me sputtering mad. For some reason I’m especialy bugged at the present moment by the thing about the strippers. Now, there’s nothing wrong with same-sex attraction for either sex, of course, that is certainly not the problem I’m having with this item. Rather, my issue is that the item seems designed to (yet again, like it needs it) further the whole idea that objectification of women is fun for everyone, that women=sex (but only those women that fit the standard, not that anyone ever bothers mentioning that in these things, because unhot women do not exist), if you like sex, you must like objectified women, if not, you’re a prude. You should be into other women as objects and into yourself as an object. Though if you’re an honest-to-goodness bi or lesbian woman and you want to, like, have a relationship with a woman, you’re expected to either put on a show (provided you fit the standard) or keep out of everyone’s way. And if you are straight and actually sexually and aesthetically attracted to men’s bodies instead, that is somehow deviant or threatening, because it makes men into objects (though of course, you should still, despite the required lack of interest in their bodies, want to sexually service men for some reason). I’m not articulating this very well at all, but what was that line about women having sex with themselves through men, unable to view themselves as subjects of their sex lives rather than objects?

Also: “all little girls inside” YUCK

P.S. Um, Jane, you do realize there is no force preventing you from going to bed with a guy you have the hots for, just because your legs are hairy and your underwear leaves something to the imagination. I have done it and lived to tell the tale. If the fellow cannot handle it, he isn’t for me.

By: Nos

Nos — Sat, 15 May 2010 13:59:00 +0000

Ha, looks like they pulled the article. Still, what a pile of horseshit. I really do feel sick.

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Link(s): Fri, May 14th, 8am | Your Revolution (The Blog!) — Fri, 14 May 2010 21:35:32 +0000

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By: baraqiel

baraqiel — Fri, 14 May 2010 18:02:55 +0000

@Katharsis – I think of that whenever I see straight, white, Christian men claiming that they shouldn’t have to be tarred with the same brush as their compatriots. “I’m not responsible for what other people this group do!” and so on. It’s like, excuse me, most people in the world don’t even have the option to disclaim that responsibility, because you don’t give it to them.

By: Katharsis

Katharsis — Fri, 14 May 2010 17:34:06 +0000

@SarahMC: That’s the insidious genius of the Patriarchy right there: it’s the ultimate catch-22.

By: ausgezeichnet

ausgezeichnet — Fri, 14 May 2010 17:26:15 +0000

OK, I am back from my destructive rampage. Stoopid hormones! Anyhoo, for me, numbers 14-16 are the most sad, because they feed directly into the mortal fear of going through life without the menz. I WILL DO ANYTHING TO KEEP YOU FROM LEAVING ME!!! So. Sad. I have ditched out of a lot of bad friendships because they were completely on the other person’s terms — and a romantic relationship should be held to an even higher standard.

On a related subject, in addition to the drivelous nature of the actual items on the list, I also take severe objection to the title of the list. Why exactly don’t we want men to know that we have mustache and hair problems? They seem to appreciate our mammalian nature otherwise. It all goes back to the ridiculous notion that women must be effortlessly perfect every second of the damn day or risk ending up alone, a fate worse than death. I for one would like it if these things were discussed at the next International Man Symposium. I guess that would be the “Him-posium.”

This isn’t a new thought by any stretch, but I always wonder: Why would guys satisfied with being in superficial relationships with women they barely know? I am definitely not a “man-hating feminazi” — many of my friends are guys, and almost all of them want to be in relationships with real women they actually like.

By: SarahMC

SarahMC — Fri, 14 May 2010 17:11:27 +0000

If I wrote a piece declaring “All women would like to be liberated from patriarchy!” they’d be all “No, no, womanity is a rainbow! Women are individuals!”

By: Katharsis

Katharsis — Fri, 14 May 2010 17:08:48 +0000

This sort of stereotype-enforcing, mean girlish, speaking for all women article is enraging. I truly don’t understand what compels women to write this kind of hateful drivel. And what bothers me the most is that, as women, we don’t have the luxury to have idiots and assholes make sweeping statements about “what all women do/are like” and not have the general public accept those statements as gospel truth.

By: mischiefmanager

mischiefmanager — Fri, 14 May 2010 16:25:07 +0000

Are we sure this isn’t a guy pretending to be a woman? I mean, jeez, what a bunch of absolutely enraging, insulting trash. Really, I don’t know which one is more offensive, the “we love being terrorized on the street” one or the “we’ll do anyone to make you jealous” one. *headdesk*