You can’t take it with you. But you can leave it behind for others. Whatever “it” is.
We’ve talked about the inevitability of death this week, and the many difficulties in dealing with it, even in the abstract. It is hard to think of loved ones’ ends, and harder still to think of our own. Even though it’s weird and awkward, thinking of your life as finite is probably a good way of answering some of those Important Life Questions.
You’ve heard of a “bucket list” (hate that term): the stuff you wanna do before you kick the bucket. He didn’t call it that, but PapaDork had me draft one of those when I was about 12. The last version I made is now at least ten years old and warrants revising, but there’s still stuff on it that matters: go hot-air-ballooning, write and publish a book, throw smashing dinner parties (I have, but not for more than 4 people, yet)…other stuff I can’t remember right now. Take dancing lessons. Maybe culinary school? There’s so much to do!
But more than things I want to do, there are things I want to be. Or to have been. What would I want on my gravestone (I won’t have one, since I want to be green-buried)? A loving and fun and devoted partner to the Dude, the Coolest Feminist Aunt Ever to the niece who will join the planet in December, a dedicated and life-changing teacher, a woman who lived her values, a good friend in good times, and a great friend in not-great times…
I don’t know that I’m managing all (or, really, any) of these things, but it’s good to check in, y’know?
So, today’s FFT: what do you want your legacy to be? How do you want to be remembered? What do you still want to accomplish? The point is not to be morbid, but to think about what “it” is you want to leave behind: feelings, accomplishments, legends!