Losing my daughter was the worst experience of my life. I wound up hospitalized a year after losing her. I wanted her with all my heart.

Most of the time, the women who carry their (your preffered term) to birth do so because THEY WANT TO PARENT.

Not because THEY WANT SOME MORE FINANCIALLY ENDOWED TWO PARENT FAMILY TO OUTDO THEM AND TAKE THEIR CHILD.

If a woman knows she has not attachment, does not feel that there is a life there, and knows she DOES NOT want to parent…. abortion is the most merciful option for her psychologically, physically and emotionally. I’m pretty damn sure research would back that up.

Adoption is assotiated with PTSD, hospitilization, poorer academic performance in the years following… the studies that have been done are awful.

I’ve read a lot of studies of the affects of abortion (even the ones by the people who have a goal of proving abortion is terrible) and the results pale. the best they can come up with is “some women may feel some sorrow later in life, there is a .o1 percent increase in cancer–maybe, some women like to have post abortion counseling”

Ok, I’m not seeing hospitilization, depression, PTSD, trauma, crying spells, years and years of intense sorrow that can come and go at any time.

Ten years after losing my daughter the pain is still excruciating.

My mother, who placed me for adoption when I was born…

has been in horrible pain as well and she has been diagnosed with PTSD in relation to losing me. As have I in relation to losing my daughter.

It’s just not a , “just give it up for adoption”

If you’re going to carry a child for nine months and bond and feel the movements and feel the hormones shift in your body… then we should provide intensive parenting preparation and support for such women… NOT tell them to they have to give up their child.

If I had not wanted to parent I would have gotten an abortion. I wanted to parent, but all the professionals I talked to gave me spiels about how adoption is the loving choice, it’s the best choice.

Ugh. I’m so sorry for ranting… it doesn’t come up much among people who care about human rights and I am in so much pain over this issue still to this day. And there is no one talk to because everyone thinks adoption is “so wonderful! Oh you get visits! how sweet!”

Yes having my heart ripped out over and over again and trampled on and spit on is sweet.

It’s really sweet.

He’s such an asshat. And my head hurts so badly today, I don’t think I can take any more.

Also, I like to state for the record, (though I’m sure it doesn’t need to be stated) that it’s not the responsibility of women who CAN bear children TO bear children. NOT MY JOB to make sure someone else gets a kid.

I cannot believe that “it’s all the [non-married] wimmins fault for having teh sex and getting up the duff; those norty red wimmins should be loomz providin’ teh fruitz of their wombz for others!”

massive headdesk… I really want to poke my eyes out now..