Ever run into one of those women who call themselves feminist and pro-choice, then open their mouth about how kids are subhuman and so are their mothers? Once in a blue moon, I come across that, but this random woman on Facebook really had me thinking. You see, she likes to call women who have kids “breeders” and kids “little shits”.
Now, at first I was angry. After a few minutes of realizing that she called herself pro-choice, I started thinking about what she said even harder. Then I LOLed like never before. After consulting with a very good friend of mine, we really wondered about those kinds of attitudes and how they fit in the pro-choice world. Survey says, they don’t.
First off, I think it’s awfully sad to be calling children little shits. My youngest is too young to be a shit, and really, if you so much as look at him all happy, he smiles like he is just so glad you are looking at him. My eldest, while she can be a lap crawler and likes the conversation to focus on her, is not malicious. She does not throw things, she doesn’t hit people, she does not pitch fits, and I scored a goldmine with the fact she behaves in public. For all intents and purposes, she is not a little shit. Even when kids behave like little shits, you should probably take into account that there are kids out there that may have a mental diagnosis that makes it hard for them to adhere to what we believe are “normal” social standards…or even if the child doesn’t have that working against them, maybe the parents deserve your scorn, not the kids. Kids are a reflection of their parents and they aren’t usually born little shits. But you know what parents don’t deserve scorn for? Being parents.
Breeder. I really hate that term. You know what I think of when I hear that term? Horses. Don’t ask me why horses, it’s just the first thing that comes up….and I am not a horse. I don’t breed children because someone made me or because it’s my purpose in life. I can admit to the fact that I cannot come up with a single practical reason why I had kids. When I asked my equal half why we had kids, even he shrugs and gives me a consonant free ”
“. I had my kids because despite being pro-choice and feminist, I love babies and small kids. There, I said it. I’m sure there will be some people more than happy to take my feminist card away now that they know that I squee at tiny humans.
But you know what’s less feminist than having kids because you want to have them? Levelling my choice to the point that you nullify a woman to her parts. We’re all a fan of pointing out Pro-Life rhetoric. We love pointing out that PLers treat women like they are not people, like they are nothing but the sum of their reproductive parts. They’re just incubators to these awful people. Well, what do you think calling a woman a BREEDER is doing? What do you think reducing children to excrement is doing?
It goes back to what I pointed out in my very first post. You can’t expect people to respect you as a person while you’re fighting for your rights and denigrating other people’s choices. You may think you’re being hardcore, edgy, current and totally badass. But in reality, you just look pathetic, angry, sad, immature and above all else, anything but pro-choice and/or feminist.
Then again, feel free to remain as visible as possible, because I don’t like assholes around my kids and if you’re easy to spot, it’s easy to avoid you.