I get it. I really do understand and get how you feel. Babies are precious. They’re half of you. If you’re already a father you probably like the justify the whole “I can’t imagine them not being here”. If you had a woman in your life have an abortion you may feel all sadfaced and do that whole “father of a dead baby” routine. Therefore you feel like you should have a say or decide what women should do with their pregnancies. I am here to tell you that you don’t have a say. Your opinion could matter, but you don’t get to decide. Before you go on complaining about that, let me fill you in on something you never thought of….
You’re not the one who has to do the work.
Now, I know it was all fun and games, you got off and now there’s a pregnancy. All of a sudden, because all you contributed was a gamete you want equal say in what happens. Not gonna happen, for a lot of reasons.
1) Legally, no other being has a right to another’s body for ANY reason. Even for survival. Should a woman want to abort, she can.
2) Equal say would probably happen if it was equal burden. SHE is the one who will be physically responsible for this pregnancy. Trust me guys, it’s stressful, permanent and damaging. You get to…ummm…go out and get ice cream once in a while?
3) Considering that she will most likely be responsible for most of the caregiving, educating, cooking, cleaning and most likely be the one expected to give up career, friends and a life while you get to be barely adequate and STILL be called a “great dad,” I think the case for equity is a little moot.
The other thing I really don’t get is when you start whining about if a woman can choose abortion, then a man should be able to choose to become a deadbeat if he didn’t want the kid in the first place. I’m like, wait, wut? So now this woman does her job like you asked her to and now the man should get a right to fuck off because OMG HE MIGHT HAVE TO SHELL OUT SOME CASH even though she will be affected physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and have to raise the child by herself? Thought you were all supposed to be pro-life.
Oh, pro-birth. My mistake.
That, and if you’re so hell bent on being FOR the coercing of pregnancy, why can’t you guys ever come up with a good answer to this question: if you feel that a man should have the right to force his partner into pregnancy for the sake of his “say”, can a man coerce a woman into an abortion? You seem to trip all over that one and start with the bumper sticker slogans of it being a “life”. Well, wait, I thought it was about men getting a say?
Oh, it’s about making sure we little ladies are doing our job. Y’know, incubating the babies and letting YOU decide whether you want them or not.
My point is this. Just be honest with us and yourselves. It’s not about the cute wee babies, it’s about keeping us in some form of control because the fact that you are losing it scares you. We have options now. You want to complain about your say? Well, you’ve had it over women for hundreds upon hundreds of years. It’s time for our say.