Comments on: Wednesday Weirdness [open thread]

By: SunlessNick

SunlessNick — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 06:11:42 +0000

@Cimorene – “my reaction and ability to gauge my own reasonableness–in asking the question, in the response to his answer–is completely haywire” – I’m totally the same way, and I think it’s cost me a couple of friends in the last month. So if good wishes and virtual hugs from a complete internet stranger mean anything, you have mine.

@Skada: Again. Not your fault, so not, no matter how many people try to tell you otherwise.

By: Anonyma

Anonyma — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 15:16:39 +0000

I ask for advice and then go off the grid for two days, silly me.

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the advice, I’m feeling much better about everything now!

By: viajera

viajera — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 00:58:26 +0000

Edit: that was supposed to be “victim does not equal weak” (I forget that greater/lesser than signs are read as html tags).

Also – thanks everyone for the advice/commiseration/etc!

By: viajera

viajera — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 00:56:11 +0000

@Skada - it was NOT YOU! I was abused by an ex-boyfriend as well, and for a long time I didn't talk about it with anyone - in part for fear of being judged to be at fault. I know too many people who, having never been in the situation, don't understand how difficult the abusers make it to leave, and blame the victim. But I've started sharing my story recently, and I find it both a relief to myself to get it out, and an opportunity to educate people who do not know better that victim weak, and it is not the victim's fault. @NessieMonster - The site I'm referring to is Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. If this sounds familiar, I also recommend Karyl McBride's book "Will I Ever be Good Enough". Also, feel free to drop me a line at my handle followed by 06 at gmail if you want to chat more about it.

By: NessieMonster

NessieMonster — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 00:40:49 +0000

Hiya all,
just to say it’s good to hear your stories and advice, especially about academia and dating, since both are very relevant to me right now. Forewarned is forearmed and all (I’m six months into my PhD and am out dating for the first time in over two years).

PS Viajera, please could you post a link to that website you found? It sounds like it might be quite useful to me.

By: Skada

Skada — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 17:08:23 +0000

@MM – Thank you. It might sound silly, but it means so much to hear that.

@Mackey – It’s so awesome to meet people we look up to. I hope he’s just as great in person and you get that autograph.

@oddwomanout – Congrats on your promotion! What a lovely surprise! Here’s hoping the relocation and settling in goes smoothly.

By: oddwomanout

oddwomanout — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 12:50:08 +0000

Wierd but wonderful: received a huge, not exactly expected promotion at work. I had 3 days notice to start my new job 80 miles away! The week has been a whirlwind of starting the new job, finding a place to live, packing up my old house, etc. I’m putting an offer on a house this morning, so everything is falling into place, but WOW!

By: SarahMC

SarahMC — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 00:31:56 +0000

Cim, you could always submit your work to us!

By: mischiefmanager

mischiefmanager — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 22:46:59 +0000

@skada: It was not your fault. I’m glad you dtmfa.

By: Mackey

Mackey — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 21:34:40 +0000

I have discovered that an academic on which my honours thesis was partially based is coming to the University where I currently tutor, in Sydney, Australia – to speak about his current book. I recently bought a copy of his book, and am enjoying it immensely.

Unfortunately I am tutoring at the time he is presenting, so I got in contact with my former honours supervisor, and I am able to meet him and get my book signed.

I am still so excited that I wasn’t able to sleep very well last night. Thinking of whole threads of comments and questions to ask.

I am still super excited. This will be the second ever autograph I have specifically asked for, and I can already feel the “starry eyed teenager meeting a rock god” emotions building..