As previously brought up on this page, the latest piece of news in the fat hating saga is this idea that parents should lose custody of their obese kids. Of course, being a fatty-fatty-fat-fat that these types of people hate so much, my first instinct was to roll my eyes, move on and let the better bloggers tackle this issue. But I started really thinking about it and figured, you know what? No. There is so much terrible in this article and in this very idea itself that I have to throw my two cents–or maybe more appropriate in this case two cheeseburgers–in.
First off, I hate concern trolling about people’s health, especially with weight. I have actually determined that there are two “but we care about your health” things out there that have nothing to do with the person. Smoking and fat. We will deride, demean, and say the nastiest things to people who smoke and who are fat and dress it up in “oh but it’s about your health!” like it’s supposed to make us feel better. Fuck you it’s about MY health. As a non smoker who has dealt with non smokers, people hate smoking because it stinks, it can end up making them stink and they just don’t like the look of it. Health becomes the after thought when the smoker gets enraged. With fat it’s much worse. We’re held back for promotions, make less money, get bullied endlessly even by GROWN ASS ADULTS (Dan Savage, looking at you, you fucking hypocrite), get told that all of our problems will be magically solved if we just stopped being fat, told that we’re disgusting to look at, sit next to, or smell…..oh but WE CARE ABOUT YOUR HEALTH. Let me tell you frankly and honestly, if you’re a reader who does any of these things or justifies fat hatred, go fuck yourself. If you’re offended that I just told you to go fuck yourself, then go fuck yourself harder, because I owe no courtesy to anyone who would demean me as a human being based on my pant size, wax poetic about my health, and make me feel like I should justify my fatness to them. You can huff and puff all you want with your dramatic “but it’s NOT OKAY TO BE FAT OMG READ THE STUDIES YOU COW!!!!!!11!!11!!11ELEVENTY!!!” it doesn’t make you any less of a jackass. But you know what? At least I have the opportunity to stand up for myself.
You know who doesn’t? Children.
That right there to me is the worst part of this all. In the States you have the First fucking Lady jumping on the fat shame bandwagon, you have articles like these, and all sorts that will snidely tell you that a fat kid is a sign of child abuse. Usually the last types don’t even have children and think putting nail polish on your kid is child abuse too, but let’s face in, it this society, when one of the most important people in your country is telling kids “you’re fat, and that makes you inferior” we’re starting to take those assholes seriously. Think about that for a second, and then think about how easy it is to shatter a kid’s self esteem. We are telling these children that they are not good enough. We are telling these kids that there is something wrong with them because of what they look like on the outside (we continue these thoughts and actions well into adulthood…it gets better my ass). We are telling children that they can’t reach their full potential because they’re fat….and you know what they’re doing about it? They’re going to rip you out of your home and take you away from your parents until someone makes you un-fat.
They’ll take you away as if your parents are drug dealers who beat the shit out of you, just because you’re fat.
That’s their solution. Instead of looking at the issue of food deserts, low income, bad job prospects, and the other things that come along with sacrificing healthy food for a full belly and roof over your head…they’ll take your kids away. Instead of helping people who need these resources, they’ll call you an unfit parent for doing everything you can to keep your family afloat and take the kids away. They’re trying to say that it’s totally no blame on the parent, but we all know that’s a lie I shouldn’t even have to explain. Fuck how much psychological damage it’ll cause a child who is taken from their loving, caring parents for basically no reason. Hell, I got fat as a child because I had early puberty, hormone issues, and ate a lot behind my parents’ backs. These people suggesting this tactic would take me away from two parents who didn’t do anything wrong.
The part that makes me most sick is that it’s a known issue that someone people will call CPS (or CFS up here) because they have personal issues with the parent. I don’t know how many times a bunch of us had a falling out with friends and said at the end “well CFS is probably going to visit soon”…because you’d be surprised how many people are assholes and will dig at your kids. So imagine the ammunition which assholes, and now fat haters, have at their disposal. People will get these agencies called on them just because people hate fat people, or hate them personally. These agencies are required to look at this, and you know what I call that? A HUGE FUCKING WASTE OF PRECIOUS RESOURCES. Now I know some people are thinking “nawwwww, that’ll never happen!”, but y’know, they’re probably the same people who thought that women who have miscarriages wouldn’t be charged under double homicide laws and other essentially anti-choice ‘child endangerment’ laws, but they are. So yes, the system is bogged down and lagged enough as it is, and people are suggesting that we take the time out to punish the fatties.
You’re actually concerned about the health of people and children in this country? Fine, while you judge away sucking at minding your own business, why don’t you try to find real solutions to the problem? How about reinstating funds to schools so they don’t cut Phys. Ed. as a program? How about better access to healthier food? How about subsidizing fruits and vegetables instead of weird shit like the corn industry? How about JOBS YOU MOTHERFUCKING REPUBLICANS that give not only a decent wage to live, but a decent wage to feed? How about better incentives, rates, and tax breaks for sports?
Apparently no. We’d rather damage the psyche of children to further the crusade against disgusting fatties than actually fix the problem. This is wrong, and if you think that there’s nothing wrong with shaming/destroying kids and parents in this manner, then maybe you should go down the yellow brick road to find a heart along with the brain you somehow dropped along with your humanity.