Mostly because women produce “love hormones.” Also, it’s more understandable to cheat on men because you’ve been indoctrinated into heterosexuality and you’re just finding your lesbianism or bisexuality. Blame society’s indoctrination for adultery. Lady cheating is okay because there’s luuuurrve and vaginas and men are sex-obsessed beasts:
Women are built to form emotional bounds; it was an intricate part of our survival in prehistorical times. We connect emotionally to each other, due to women having more of the chemical known as oxytocine “the love hormone.” That is why affairs affect lesbians very differently to heterosexuals and why there needs to be a different view point taken when understanding affairs between two women. This is not to say that straight people aren’t affected by affairs in their marriage, the impact of betrayal on any person regardless of sexual orientation can be devastating and painful.
Really? We need lesbian-specific guidence on cheating now? Is this a thing? I remember a lot of Smith College drama surrounding cheating on long-distance boyfriends with housemates. Shouldn’t we leave the whole concept of justifying infidelity with words like “experimentation” and “finding oneself,” back in college where it belongs and acknowledge that cheating is cheating?
Oh and according to M, who is the Science Queen of my life, the hormone oxytocin isn’t a “love hormone” – it’s a pair bonding hormone. And as M says, we all know that “pair-bonding” doesn’t necessarily equal “love.”
Cross-posted at Oh my sainted aunt!