@Ms. M … I was in college 1998-2005 and totally thought those were my options, too. Being bisexual, particularly for women, seemed to be all about experimenting and not really knowing yourself — I didn’t want to be associated with my peers who announced their bisexuality as part and parcel of their college rebellion (so it seemed to me). That’s embarrassing now, for me to admit. I totally had to get over my internalized biphobia in order to take my own sexuality seriously.

*headhang*

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about sex, gender and identity (all that form filling for various official documents and box ticking).. along with sexuality and identity.. this may be a rambly, so apologies.

when filling in the “gender/sex” box, I where ever possible do not tick anything. Most of the time the “gender/sex” box will only have a binarous choice. Most of the time the question is superfluous anyway, and there are times I think it is as much about an internal Foucauldian disciplinary power as much as a social pressure..

As a person who is in a relation with a cis-gendered male I also hate the whole “heterosexual” tag.. my sexuality is not defined by him.. and the sexual activities we engage in (and yes they feel amazing!) involve a multiple ways of engaging in intimacy – and not all of them are PIV.. whilst heterosexuality may be a dominant, but undefined and unstudied, expression in society I wouldn’t be suprised if some of the intimate and sexual practices between consenting adults (and even some of the self-loving) was not strictly speaking PIV, and possibly more diverse; trying to define heterosexuality may do more to destabilise conservative notions of heterosexuality.

This book looks like another to add to the reading pile. Thanks Anna.