Prom (oting) Homophobia...

This month in Fulton, Mississippi, two girls wanted to go to prom together, and one of them wanted to wear a tux. When one of the girls—high school senior Constance McMillen—challenged the school’s written policy that prom dates must be of the opposite sex, the school board decided:...

Harpy Seminar: On (Not) Wearing Underwea...

HOLY SHIZZNIT! Via Christopher Ware @ Flickr. A few weeks ago, PhDork, Pilgrim Soul and I met fellow fem-blogger Amanda Marcotte for some drinks and a mountain of fries at a local bar. Amanda happened to walk in right as Tha Dork and I were chatting gaily about how, as kids, we received conflicting messages...

The Grudge Report...

O Magazine writer Martha Beck is all about holding a grudge…for good reason. She writes: Can love, forgiveness, and holding grudges really go together? Yes, they can — depending on how you define grudge. A good grudge is simply an acknowledgment of another person’s foibles — it...

The Most Ridonkulous Op-Ed of 2010: Audr...

I'm glad I saved this image from the last time I posted about Audrey Irvine. When last I wrote about Audrey Irvine, author of the erstwhile CNN column “Relationship Rants”, she was blaming everyone from Beyonce to the US Census for the fact that no one respects unmarried relationships...

I Don’t Give a Damn What Color You...

Apparently instead of promoting research, funding and education, we ladeez are now supposed to fight breast cancer or raise awareness of it or whatever by posting our bra color in our Facebook status. Quoth a viral mail making the rounds: “Hi gals……..had this sent to me ……some...

On living with pain and taking care of o...

I have been managing my chronic pain and taking care of myself for years. But taking care of myself requires the cooperation of other people, and that can be the most difficult challenge to overcome. I cannot take care of myself or be well if others do not take my pain seriously. Just because I was...

You keep using that word. I do not think...

When I imagine a selfish person, I picture someone who cheats, or steals, or behaves in some other way that benefits herself at the expense of others. So why, I wonder, is “selfish” so frequently used as a weapon against child-free women? Not procreating doesn’t hurt anyone, especially...

A book is hardly worth reading if no one...

Via Yves. (in Vietnam) @ Flickr. “The books that the world calls immoral are the books that show the world its own shame.” - Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray Banned Books Week is afoot! BBW is an annual event celebrating the freedom to read and the importance of the First Amendment....

Unsolicited Advice Strikes Again!...

It is a truth universally acknowledged that any person in possession of a uterus must be in want of unsolicted commentary* about her uterus. This is especially true when your uterus is in gestation mode and total strangers feel compelled to discuss its contents with you. Now, my own personal uterus has...

Keep Your Morals Off My Pill...

In yesterday’s Health section of the New York Times is a very informative article entitled Weighing the Health Benefits of Birth Control. Despite the title and the solid information it contains, however, it’s not about the pros and cons of taking BCPs, it’s about how the Pill’s...

I Love the Smell of Hypocrisy in the Mor...

Ah yes, another day, another GOP hypocrite who wants to preach the sanctity of marriage in public, and fuck around in private. “Do as I say, not as I do” might be the official motto of Republican “family values” candidates these days. Today Mark Sanford, the married Republican...

A Tall Cold Glass of Haterade...

Via Trooloo @ Flickr. Last week, Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick announced they were expecting twins with a surrogate mother. Mazel tov to them. But of course, women’s reproductive choices always make them targets, particularly celebrity women. So Viv Groskop of the Guardian sharpened...