Who’s Counting?...

I mean, besides him... From a recent “Ask Carolyn” column by Carolyn Hax: Dear Carolyn: The other day, the guy I’ve been out with exactly four times asked me for my “number.” (Not my phone number, the other one.) I was offended that he’d even ask at this early stage,...

The Undateable: An Overshare...

Via tbdnyc @ Flickr. A couple weeks ago, my friend Anne passed me a copy of a book that comes out in March titled Undateable: 311 Things Guys Do that Guarantee They Won’t Be Dating or Having Sex. It’s a humor book, but what makes it so laugh-out-loud funny is that the stereotypes it mines...

A Room of One’s Own: Part Three...

Via @ Flickr. Over 12 million unmarried partners live together in 6,008,007 households. - U.S. Census Bureau. “American Community Survey: 2005-2007.” The number of cohabiting unmarried partners increased tenfold between 1960 and 2000. – U.S. Census Bureau. “America’s Families and Living...

Newsflash: Cougars are People, Too....

As opposed to the botoxed succubi preying on fresh, sweet mannfleisch that rightfully belongs only to the nubile. In a recent New York Times Fashion section (’cause that’s where the stories for ladies go), Sarah Kershaw noted with incredulity that women over 35 who date men 5 or more years...

Breaking Up is Hard to Do, Akshully....

O hai. Ur dumped. Plz to enjoy my last Bed, Bitch and Beyond blog post. My gig at Bitch ends today, so the topic is breakups, complete with much oversharing about my own fraught history of oddball breakups (the LOLCat may remind you of one). All things must come to an end…whether by voicemail,...

Is Google A Dater’s Best Friend?...

From my latest post at Bed, Bitch and Beyond blog at Bitch Magazine: A relationship question for our modern times: Do you Google the people you date? Before a blind date? After a first date? Just quick background check? It’s undoubtedly the greatest invention in history if you want to check up...

I’ve Got Something in My Eye...

I’m not a romantic, but clicking through this gallery gave me a warm feeling on this chilly fall day. The lovely Lesley of Fatshionista created the Museum of Fat Love as a way to showcase happy fat people in relationships. Contrary to popular belief, fat people are not unlovable. You don’t...

Ex Sex: The Ultimate Recycling...

My latest (and mercifully uncontroversial) post from Bed, Bitch and Beyond blog at Bitch Magazine, in which I ponder–and overshare about–the pleasures and perils of having post-breakup sex with your ex.

Love, (De)Friendship and Facebook...

Does anyone else snicker whenever they get a message saying someone has "poked you?" My latest from Bed, Bitch and Beyond blog at Bitch Magazine, in which I tackle burning questions about Facebook and the sticky issues of on-line breakups, defriending and why you should never put your relationship...

Be a Bitch–CTFAD Edition...

Ladies, today I got a bit of a shock. Oh, it wasn’t anything truly horrible like the death of a friend or a cancer diagnosis.  But still, I was surprised. Because I got dumped by text message. How fucking high school is that? I’m 34, he’s 33…and yet, dumped by text!  It’s...

My Boyfriend the Baby Daddy: An Overshar...

Via tbdnyc @ Flickr. Gentle readers, sometimes in life, the rug gets pulled out from under you. My shrink friend calls these “a fucking growth opportunity.” They can be hella useful when it comes to personal development, although they’re never much fun at the time…like when I...

On Attempting to Date While Feminist: An...

So lately, I’ve been feeling the push to couple particularly hard, due to some things going on personally.  Having something of a contrarian spirit as I do, I’ve been pushing back.  I don’t need no man!  I am Just Fine On My Own! Except lately, not so much with the Just Fine part. Here’s...